Thursday, August 18, 2011

Things I love Thursday..

Sooo, I didn't really find anything I loved this week for this post. It's been one of those insanely busy, dramatic, awful weeks. Work is SO stressful. Almost every call I take (if I take it) is an apology for my lack of responsiveness. Ugh. But my home life is good. I work for the weekends, and for the weeknights when I get to be Mom. :)

I did find one thing this week I loved, this interesting perspective on natural birth vs epidural birth.

While I'm not pregnant, I do think about what I want to do differently with my birthing experience the next opportunity I have. Personally, I don't think natural births are best for baby and mother. But I don't think they aren't best for baby and mother. See, I think using the word best insinuates that someone having a medicated birth would in anyway want to do something that wasn't best for their child. I always want what is best for my child, and I had an epidural (and then a c-section). It's hurtful to think that I would do something intentionally that wasn't in the best interest of my child. My child means the world to me. I just think it's a super personal decision based on your own circumstances coupled with the fact that pain effects everyone very differently. What's best for you, is up to you. I don't think there is any right way, it is universal to everyone.

I don't regret my birthing experience one bit, but having been through what I have, and knowing what I know, I do want to do things differently the next time around (if I'm given the chance, please God!). I've decided that I'm not going to schedule a c-section just because I've already had one even though VBAC's are risky. While, I wouldn't be devastated if I had another c-section, I want more than two babies and can't bear to think of having 2, 3 or more c-sections! I'd like to try for a VBAC and if it doesn't go as planned, then yes, I'll have a repeat cesarean. My mom had a VBAC with her 2nd child, and she was very insistent about it. She ended up having the first VBAC in Ventura County (where my sister was born) in 1985. She had the first VBAC ever at that hospital!

Also, unless 100% medically necessary, I'd probably not do the induction route again either. Yes there were medical reasons to why I needed to be induced, but I was naive and didn't insist we wait it out as they weren't life threatening reasons and it was my decision to go forward with it. I was anxious, in pain, tired and 9 months pregnant. If I'm overdue, then I would go the repeat c-section route rather than induction as I'd rather do a c-section than go through another failed induction. I want to be alert, happy, and comfortable when I bring another baby in this world. Not miserable, starving and tired. By the time Carter was actually born, I could have given birth to a Ilama and I wouldn't have cared.

The first time I held Carter. About 5 seconds later I said, "Umm okay, I'm going to drop him now so please take him."

Someday I'll actually write out Carter's birth story for you.

But anyways, just my two cents. And that's not to say I might have a completely different opinion when the time comes around to do this again. I think I've forgotten what it's like to be 10 months pregnant. Haha.

I don't judge anyone else for their choices as I hope not to be judged for mine. This is a super personal decision, to each his own.

And that's not to say that I'm not fascinated in natural birth and birth in general. I watched 'The Business of Being Born' at least 5 times while I was pregnant and at one point Andy started to want me to have a home water birth. Yea, that didn't happen.

I'm equally excited for 'More Business of Being Born' which should be out in October, and they totally delve into the VBAC world and feature celebrities! Woop Woop. I have quite the obsession with TTC, pregnancy, birth, and babies these days; I don't see that changing anytime soon.

Happy almost Friday all!


~R said...

Woohoo! I had no idea that "More business of being born" was coming out. I can't wait to see it!! I loved the first movie and watched it twice when I was pregnant. But I ended up with a c-section just like you. thanks for sharing!

Bianca Martino said...

loved this post, and agree with every word. i had a c-section and an epidural and was in labor for 35 hours. i know it's silly, but i'm hurt when people make comments such as "i'm going to deliver naturally as it is best for my baby"...... because we chose to do what wasn't best for the baby and be cut open, right?

Michelle said...

Thanks you two! I'm glad there are people who understand where I'm coming from. I try not to let those comments affect me anymore, but it's so hard not to sometimes. It's refreshing to read an article that gives actual data to show that epidurals do NOT slow birth down or increase your cesearean chances.